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LET OTHERS BE RIGHT THE MAJORITY OF THE TIME
Another way to looking at this is to stop telling other people they are wrong. When you do this, it automatically makes the other person feel defensive. The fact is that everyone hates to be corrected and what we really want is to be understood, liked, and respected. Now granted, there may be some important issues that may bring up opinions that are going to be completely opposite of yours. But unless it is the right time and place for a rational debate, it's sometimes better to just let it go for the moment. Get in the smart habit of letting the other person feel they are right most of the time and you'll do a lot towards building better relationships.
When you choose to respond instead of react, you allow yourself the best opportunity to succeed in each conversation you engage in. All it takes is the awareness and discipline to withhold your initial reaction until you have more time to evaluate exactly what the other person meant and what is most appropriate for you to do or say in that particular situation.
The Bottom Line
Remember that in order to "talk like a winner" in the broadest sense, you must "respond like a winner" as well. All you have to do is follow a simple and powerful rule: Choose an appropriate reply to another person's communication. Once you know and understand the significance of this essential part of successful communication, it's only a matter of playing around freely with the ideas, practicing with a greater sense of purpose, and putting it to the test regularly in your own life until it becomes a natural habit.
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